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How to make friends...??
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Pavel
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 06:31
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Change your last name to Hilton
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*Karma Cola*
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 07:07
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On 2005-04-06 06:31, Pavel wrote:
Change your last name to Hilton
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Change your name to 'RICK SOLOMON'.  ~*** You can tell By the way i use my walk, Im a woman's man, No time to Talk***~ |
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Psycosmo
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 07:42
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On 2005-04-06 05:56, s0ft wrote:
it doesnt come naturally for everyone, myself included. i hate it when people say "be yourself"... well, what if im quiet, shy, and have a hard time talking? being myself wouldnt help anything.
anyway, i find it easiest to listen first. if you get to know people before you decide to say something to them it could be easier to find things to talk about.
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I totally agree. If making friends came naturally to this person do you think he'd be posting about it on isratrance? It's so easy to tell someone to be themselves but it really isnt that simple for everyone. I know it hasnt always been simple for me! I think it's more about learning to be oneself but in a way that is sensitive to the needs/concerns/sensitivities of others.
My advice:
Learn to love yourself while still being honest with yourself about areas that need improvement.
Approach people with love
Forgive them if they do not reciprocate your outreach.
Compromise with others, but don't let go of your values
Be willing to take risks
Be patient... making friends isnt easy for everyone... some people need to work harder at it than others.
Hang in there...
And theres nothing wrong with seeking professional help... psychologists arent just for crazy people or depressed people or whatnot, they're also here to help with garden variety problems like having a hard time making friends. I actually went to see a psychologist for almost a year because I was having a lot of problems with befriending the opposite sex.... and I think it helped me a lot. If you have access to any couseling services through work or school I highly reccomend taking advantage of them. A lot of people have problems like yours and its nothing to be ashamed of as long as you are trying to do something about it. |
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CLAW
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 13:22
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Ov3rdos3
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 15:01
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i make people laugh. usually at me. but i make many friends that way  |
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psilocybe
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 15:11
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On 2005-04-06 00:17, headyatail2000 wrote:
SHARE YOUR JOINTS..!!!
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LOL! great advice...
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Psycosmo
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Posted : Apr 6, 2005 15:36
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On 2005-04-06 13:22, CHP wrote:
get off from your damn chair and go out meet some ppl....
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Also good advice.... you cant expect friends to just appear by magic you have to go out and meet people first! |
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Neville Bone
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Posted : Apr 7, 2005 12:23
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Hey Psyboy what's up?
Did you forget us already?
Now it's the time to make friends and get some good advice.
Check us out man. |
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Ron Lyner
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Posted : Apr 7, 2005 13:30
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On 2005-04-06 05:56, s0ft wrote:
it doesnt come naturally for everyone, myself included. i hate it when people say "be yourself"... well, what if im quiet, shy, and have a hard time talking? being myself wouldnt help anything.
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"being myself wouldnt help anything."
so you wanna be someone else??
if you wont be yourself than people wont like you for who you realy are, but for who you pretend to be.
i am quiet and shy, and it doesnt bothers me..
its not a problem at all.. everyone loves quiet and shy people.
so be quiet and shy... but start to love too.
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Neville Bone
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Posted : Apr 7, 2005 13:46
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For me the best soultion is to be always natural and be yourself at all times.
I don't like fake people and if people don't like me for what I am than they don't deserve my friendship.
Thanks God I don't have any problems with that (apart from some guys on isra which disagree with my thoughts and take it personally) but anyway!
You should do good things and be nice even with those who are not nice to you.
There is not such thing like EYE TO EYE. |
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Ov3rdos3
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Posted : Apr 7, 2005 13:52
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spend less time in stupid forms, and actually converse with people face to face. thats a good start. |
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ganjagil
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Posted : Apr 7, 2005 16:04
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Hey man just go travelling you will make all sorts of friends and you will learn how you can make people more comfortable that way they will love you more! The more you know about life and lifetstyles the more you can make people happy the more you have friends! Well i guess as the buddhist say enlightenment is through thy neighbour!
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Justin Chaos
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Posted : Apr 7, 2005 17:41
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You can always send PM'S.
My fake plants died, because I did not pretend to water them. |
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AcidicBrain
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Posted : Apr 10, 2005 12:52
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Well, firsly, understand you dont need anyone to be happy in life. You were born alone and you can definitely live alone. Make yourself comfortable with yourself. Once you are happy about yourself, the positive energies that you generate will automatically give you confidence and also the understanding that even if you dont have friends, you are quiet happy being with yourself. And then, as is with most things, when u know u dont need them for ur survival, you are in a much better position to get them, coz now there is no tension or desperateness of feeling that, oh man i have to do that or i have to make friends. Then the attitude is somewhat like, id like to make friends, ill do my best, but if im still not able to, then what the heck, im still gonna remain happy! And also remember the law of averages, if u try tons of times, u may fail a few times, but you will surely get what u want. so if u fail a few times, try again, your life or your happiness does not depend on it. Hope that helps.
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exotic
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Posted : Apr 11, 2005 17:21
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dont let the things you own end up owning you..
make that rule no. 1
friends will come .,, and true ,.. learn to love your self first and then only will you be able to send +ve vibrations.,,
i know its a cruel world out there .,, you have to adjust to your surroundings in the best manner achievable...
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